Construction or Destruction

I asked my guides once, how, in all our human messiness, we manage not to mess up the path we’re meant to be on. If we have free will, and for the most part are unaware of the path set in front of us, how do we manage to not go off that path, completely?

Their answer was this: for all the decisions you make all day, every day, you’re really only choosing between two outcomes: Construction and Destruction. A positive move forward, or a step back. Not a devastating move back, not a move back that ruins your path. Just a step back. Possibly to reassess, possibly to remind yourself that you are ready, and sometimes not ready, for positive moves forward – almost all of it subconscious, as the decisions usually happen very quickly.

The good news, they said, is that they have a contingency plan for whatever choice we do make. And actually, they’re pretty sure of the move we’re going to make, ahead of the decision, because they know us. They know where we stand with ourselves, our lives, our sense of security or fear, and it’s all OK. We’re never in the wrong place, we’re just where we are, where we’re ready to be. And when we’re ready to not be there anymore, to make those positive constructive steps forward, no matter how small or momentous, we’ll feel it, and we’ll stop choosing destruction.

In the meantime, their promise to us is that they will continue to show us the constructive options, and when we’re ready to go that way, we will, and we won’t look back, because the feeling of staying in our old position, our old mindset, world view, relationship, or treatment of ourselves, will be more uncomfortable than the thought of moving forward. The discomfort will outweigh the fear, and the constructive choice will become the new obvious one.

In the meantime, don’t beat yourself up about where you are on your path. There is no “there” you are trying to get to. The more you achieve, the more you will want to achieve, and your world, and your options will continue to expand. Ever more adventures to enjoy. And don’t think they are judging you, either. Think of them as loving parents, teaching their child to ride a bike. They don’t judge the child for not being able to ride it yet, they stand by patiently as the child throws a tantrum out of frustration with the process, or even refuses the experience altogether, out of fear.

Because they know eventually he’s going to want to ride that bike more than anything, and they’ll get to be there to see his joy, his pride in himself. His newfound freedom, and his abandonment of the fear that preceded it.